What’s Love Got to Do With it?
Women today as a whole spend more time working and less time playing Susie Homemaker. Unlike fifty years ago, most women are searching for a career after college, not a husband. With women working so hard to make a professional life for themselves and marriage/children falling second, are serious relationships really still appropriate?
With 41% of marriages in the US ending in divorce, why would a woman focus so much energy on a situation with such low odds? Love, yes love is what we all admire, long for and hope to one day find... Unfortunately, love sometimes is not enough to maintain a life long partnership in 2011. As a single twenty something looking objectively at marriage statistics, testimonials and personal life experience in relationships, I seem to be turning a bit jaded.
At the risk of sounding a bit controversial, may I mention the word fling... Ok, hear me out? The definition of fling: a short period of unrestrained pursuit of one's wishes or desires. With Women Empowerment at an all time high and men becoming more of a luxury and less of a necessity, why not utilize as needed? Flings are amazing for many reasons and after much of comtemplation, it seems the pros might outweigh the cons.
Flings are so intimate in such a short period of time. There is something to be said said about someone you never have to see again... unless you want to. Flings hold no expectations, all guards are down and both men and women have the same intentions in mind. All that mind boggling, game playing, intimidating part of dating is distracted by passion and living in the moment.
This article is not intended to condemn relationships, marriage or anything of that nature. This article is written to open your mind to think outside the box of dating and not limit yourself to societies norms. Some of the best men I have ever met were mid fling and I don’t think I would have met the same person (that they opened up and exposed) if it were different circumstances.
With that being said, if you are a single woman on a man hunt look in the mirror and ask yourself... why am I looking for a man and what do I really want? Everyone is different and everyone needs someone different. This is 2011, time to let go, get to know ourselves and date in the same glutenous manner we eat. If you are in love, love hard and as fervidly for as long as you can. I am not saying it is not out there, I am saying we should stop searching for something that could be right under our noses just in a different light.