Curing the Fifty Shades Withdrawls

So lately the question I hear most often is- "I finished all the Fifty Shades books, what do I read next?" Well, now I have a solution!!! This website will be your new best friend. Simply enter the name of your favorite book or author and it will recommend similar reads!!! Click HERE to try it yourself

My Favorite New Face Product

Battling with aging and pigmentation problems from both sun damage and acne seemed like an uphill battle. In your 20's your sensitive skin changes a lot and is starting to age but has some residual teenage-like symptoms. This little bottle has made my face do an overall 180! Every morning before you put your makeup on, mix a little with your moisturizer of choice and voila!  It's face glow in a bottle.
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Philosophy-- Turbo Booster C Powder
"The benefits of a topical antioxidant—one of the gold standards of dermatology—is as simple as adding a little sprinkle of this easy-to-use vitamin C powder to your moisturizer. Featuring 99.8% potency, this treatment powder protects skin from one of the leading causes of premature aging—free radical damage—during the day. Vitamin C also gently lightens hyperpigmentation, for a more even and radiant complexion."

Is there a benefit to being friends with benefits?

We've seen tons of movies made about this exact scenario... Guy and Girl are friends, they have an unexpected but oh so pleasant romp and then the drama comes... but it all works itself out once they both realize they're soulmates and end up happily ever after... The only problem is that your life is not a movie. You are not going to find Noah from the Notebook, so stop looking. You actually have a better chance of finding Al Bundy.
Since I had multiple questions in my formspring in regards to this idea, I gather that some of you still think you are living in a fairy tale... If for some off chance you are the nearly nonexistent female that can have sex and be totally attracted to your best friend while never considering the thought you two could end up happily ever after- more power to you and hump away. For the rest of you I will explain why you can't bone your best friend into your soulmate.
When a man and woman meet there is an instant when you subconsciously decide whether you are attracted to the person or not. Obviously you can initially believe you aren't attracted to someone but their personality etc. can win you over and change your perspective... But that whole time he/she was trying to win you over. They were chasing you, trying to win your affection and attention in various ways and you caved.
 Let's say there was an unspoken, mutual decision that neither of you were attracted, but you had enough in common to remain friends. Right there a line was drawn and neither of you wanted to cross it. Neither side was willing to start the chase and the relationship will remain platonic. The second you cross that line sexually there are a few key factors that come into play.
 For starters, ego. You two have now crossed the line and both ego's are delicate. If you were just friends, the ego remains selfless as it isn't yearning for affection, appreciation or validation. Who is going to call first? Do we talk about it or pretend it never happened? Is this going to happen again? What does this mean? The possibility does also remain that one person in this friendship was waiting for this the whole time. That he/she did not attempt to pursue the other for fear of rejection, or that their own ego would be bruised. Now that you have fornicated the hopeful half of this friendship might see this as an opportunity and the mixed signals from the backlash of the seemingly harmless (probably drunken) evening is now ruining your friendship.
Last but not least ladies, let me introduce you to oxytocin. What is oxytocin? Remember that douche bag you dated that you couldn't seem to get enough of because you two had this awesome- "connection." Well, there was no connection, anyone can release oxytocin in our system with anything from simple fondling to fornication. Known as the "cuddle hormone," oxytocin increases our sense of trust and dependancy on a partner as soon as we orgasm.
So, if none of this article is convincing enough to stop you from embarking on a friends with benefits saga, than he must be hot enough to sacrifice anyway so good luck and have a sexy time.

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Back in the Saddle Again

Woo! After a very looooong and much needed writing hiatus, I am back!!! A lot has changed in the last year... For starters, I have a boyfriend!!! I have spent much time considering how I am going to approach this blog once attached for the relationship and sex articles and have decided to involve you!

I will be carefully choosing topics that I receive in my formspring and answer them open and honestly through the blog!

Thanks so much for continuing to read and hope you are as excited as I am!!!

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Happy Halloween!

Enjoy this Halloween/ Thanksgiving with some YUMMY Pumpkin Hummus!


  • 1 3/4 cups dry garbanzo beans
  • 1 (15 ounce) can pumpkin puree
  • 5 fluid ounces lemon juice
  • 1/3 cup extra-virgin olive oil
  • 1/2 cup tahini paste
  • 3 cloves garlic, minced
  • 1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon
  • 1/2 teaspoon ground nutmeg
  • 1/2 teaspoon ground allspice
  • salt to taste


  1. Place the garbanzo beans into a large container and cover with several inches of cool water; let stand 8 hours to overnight. Or, bring the beans and water to a boil in a large pot over high heat. Once boiling, turn off the heat, cover, and let stand 1 hour. Drain and rinse before using.
  2. Place the soaked garbanzo beans into a large saucepan and cover with several inches of water. Bring to a boil over high heat, then reduce heat to medium-low, cover, and simmer until the garbanzo beans are tender, 1 1/2 to 2 hours. Once cooked, refrigerate the beans and liquid until cold.
  3. Drain the garbanzo beans, reserving the cooking liquid. Place the beans and 1/2 cup of the reserved cooking liquid into a blender, and puree until a smooth paste forms. Add the pumpkin puree, lemon juice, olive oil, tahini, garlic, cinnamon, nutmeg, and allspice. Cover and puree again until smooth. Use additional cooking liquid as needed to achieve a smooth consistency. Season to taste with salt.

Dream Weaver

Lately I have been having some REALLY strange dreams.  This inspired me to reiterate what some common dreams apparently mean according to the book "Unlock Your Dreams, Change Your Life," by Lauri Quinn

You're Being Chased.
A very common dream for women more then men, this suggests that you are running from something or avoiding something/someone.  This is your minds way of telling you that you have to face your problems and should subside once you resolve the issue at hand.

Your Teeth are Falling Out.
This is meant to symbolize a missed opportunity or situation that went not as you had planned.  Whether it be something you said that came out wrong or was interpreted in a manner that wasn't intentional, it is all related to words; teeth can represent words in dreams.

You're Falling.
When you fall in your dreams sometimes waking you up in a panicky state, it symbolizes worry.  Usually this dream is linked to some area of your life that you are worried is going down in flames.

Sleep Tight.  Don't let the Bed Bugs Bite.